Dear Firebrand Generation,

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t’s February, and you know what that means love is in the air, and so are endless engagement announcements, matching pajamas, and candlelit dinners filling your feed. For the single crowd, it can feel like every scroll is a gentle reminder of what you don’t have. Suddenly, it seems like everyone else has a Valentine, while you’re out here trying to convince yourself that your purpose is enough.

And let’s be real it’s normal to feel a little bit of comparison creep in. It’s okay to wish you had someone to share this season with. But here’s the thing: while love may be in the air, so is something far greater your purpose. And if you’re not careful, all the “love stuff” can distract you from what really matters.

A few Valentine’s Days ago, I opened my phone, and my feed was overflowing with romantic milestones. Engagement photos, anniversary captions, and “God sent me my soulmate” posts seemed to be everywhere.

At first, I thought, “That’s so sweet! But as I kept scrolling, comparison started whispering: “Why not me? What’s wrong with me? Did God forget about me?”

That year, I had a choice to make. I could let comparison take root, or I could use that season to press into God and focus on what He wanted to do in my life. I decided to ask a different question: What is God teaching me in this waiting season?

What I learned was life-changing: your waiting season isn’t wasted it’s where God shapes you, grows you, and prepares you for something greater than you could imagine.

Think of your waiting season like planting a garden. When you sow seeds, nothing seems to happen right away. But beneath the surface, the roots are growing deeper, the soil is nourishing the seed, and something beautiful is taking shape.

In the same way, your waiting season is a time for preparation. God is building your foundation, deepening your faith, and refining your character so that, when the time is right, you’ll bloom in ways you never thought possible.

While love is in the air, remember these unshakable truths:

• God’s timing is always perfect (Ecclesiastes 3:11).
• You are not forgotten—He sees you (Isaiah 49:15-16)
• Waiting is part of God’s preparation for your purpose (James 1:4).
• Your worth isn’t tied to your relationship status (Colossians 2:10).

These truths anchor you when comparison creeps in and remind you that your purpose is greater than the opinions of others or a social media highlight reel.

1. Curate Your Feed for Growth
Unfollow accounts that stir envy or discouragement, and replace them with faith-filled, inspiring content. Fill your feed with reminders of God’s love and truth.

2. Invest in Yourself
Use this season to grow spiritually, emotionally, and personally. Dive deeper into Scripture, start a passion project, or develop a skill that aligns with your calling.

3. Celebrate Others Without Comparing
When you see engagement posts or romantic milestones, celebrate those moments as evidence of God’s faithfulness. What He’s done for them, He can do for you—in His timing.

4. Show Love to Others
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about romantic love. Use it as an opportunity to bless others—write an encouraging note to a friend, serve your community, or remind someone else of their worth.

5. Seek God Daily
Make prayer, worship, and Scripture a non-negotiable part of your routine. When you stay connected to God, your focus shifts from what you lack to all He’s doing in your life.

Take a moment to reflect on your waiting season:

• What is one area of your life where God might be asking you to trust Him more?
• How can you use this time to grow closer to Him or pursue your purpose?
• What’s one way you can bless someone else during this season?

You are not waiting in vain. You are being shaped, strengthened, and prepared for a purpose greater than you can imagine. Keep your eyes on God, and know this: your waiting is sacred, and your purpose is worth it.

Dear firebrand, God hasn’t forgotten you. His timing is perfect, and His plans for you are good. While you’re waiting for the love story He’s writing, He’s busy refining your heart, preparing your purpose, and drawing you closer to Him.

Psalm 27:14 says, “Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Waiting isn’t passive, it’s an active process of trusting, growing, and staying focused on the One who holds your future.

We thank You for the waiting seasons, even when they feel long or uncertain. Help us to shift our focus from comparison to calling, and remind us that Your plans are always good.

Teach us to use this time to grow closer to You, to refine our character, and to walk boldly in our purpose. Guard our hearts from discouragement and comparison, and fill us with the peace that comes from trusting in Your perfect timing.

Raise up a firebrand generation, confident in their identity and anchored in their calling. May we reflect Your love and light in every season. In Jesus’ name, we pray.

Amen.

Firebrand Generation let’s make this season count! What’s one intentional step you can take this week to focus on your purpose? Share it in the comments I’d love to hear how God is working in your life!

This Valentine’s Day, let love be in the air but let your purpose rise even higher. Celebrate where you are, trust God’s timing, and embrace this season as a time of preparation and growth.

The best is yet to come!